Tuesday, 31 March 2020
Monday, 30 March 2020
Sunday, 29 March 2020
The Quest For Healthier Beliefs
As a child one thing my folks were consistent in saying was wait until you're older, then you'll understand life. I didn't understand life then and I don't understand life now.
I was like most children growing up. At the very top of my wish list was to have fun, be happy, and enjoy life. That's what I thought life was all about. Now in my adult years I wish I could start over with a clean slate because my distorted thinking has caused distractions to my inner being.
We do ourselves justice when we look back over our lives and see how our habits and beliefs have robbed us of the ability to see reality.
The crime we punish ourselves with is seldom seen. So often we hurt ourselves by stubbornly refusing to change our thoughts and reactions. We often search our exterior looking for solutions that only come from within. Because we become so commitment to our beliefs, the only possible way to experience a break through is through an honest self inventory. If examined closely, a self inventory will show how our beliefs affect our daily lives.
What I've found is my problems and their accompanying solutions stored away inside my mind buried deep within my beliefs. My thoughts and actions based on beliefs that provided a false sense of self. Because I cherished my unhealthy beliefs the pain I felt during the examining process was unbearable at times.
In my re-examine process I used a shovel of spiritual truth and began digging deep within myself eventually overthrowing anything that was contrary to spiritual truth. It wasn't easy and took great practice and courage, but I knew it was the only thing that could convert me from the walking chaotic being I once was into the man I am today.
Years of compressing my feeling with denial, rationalization and justification had come to light. Because of my ability of being honest.
In our quest for healthier beliefs it's important that we approach one belief at a time. If we try to attack them all at once we can become overwhelmed with anxiety. As we do this we experience the comfort that only patients can offer. We must remember our purpose is to become healthy mentally so we can become healthy spiritually and physically.
Our distorted beliefs will eventually become our reality. We began to make choices based on how we think things are instead of on what is. Wisdom has taught me to look at the evidences. Our responsibility is to start and finish a quest that can only be done by ourselves. A mentally and spiritual journey that bring a happier and joyful you, start by adopting healthier beliefs.
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Saturday, 28 March 2020
Everyone Is Carrying A Heavy Burden We Know Nothing About
Foster Understanding And Kindness
I want you to do a simple exercise: close your eyes and think about an issue affecting you that few people know about. Consider the situation carefully and feel the emotions associated with it. Perhaps you feel sadness, anger or anxiety? Let's take it a step further: think of someone close to you experiencing something similar. It might be a parent, a sibling, a relative or close friend. Try to get a sense of their pain and suffering. As you do this, move into your heart and feel compassion for them. Now, open your eyes and sit with the feelings you experienced. How do you feel? Did you experience a sense of oneness with the other person? A shared humility for life? The aim of this exercise is to understand that your suffering is the same as many other people endure.
We all face battles few people know little or nothing about. We all carrying a heavy burden in some form or another. Some carry it in the form of psychological pain while others carry emotional and physical pain. Some wounds are visible, while other are less noticeable. However, this does not subtract from the burden they endure daily. Therefore, we ought to be more compassionate with one another instead of giving people a piece of our mind. Life is not always smooth sailing and there are times when we are not our best. Someone may ignite our pain and we admonish them to remind them of our hurt. But let me say: that person too also carries a hurt of a different kind. Therefore, retaliating when you are in pain does little to heal each other and the world by and large.
Does this makes sense? I hope it is clear people seldom aim to hurt us maliciously. There is often a deep wound they are responding to, so we ought to be compassionate with them before responding in anger or haste. I'm not suggesting you become a door mat for others to walk over. But fighting fire with fire does little to foster understanding and kindness. It seems people are kinder to their pet animals than they are with themselves. I've coached hundreds of people over the years with inner conflicts who hold high expectations of themselves. When they fall short, they chastise themselves because they did not live up to the image of who they ought to be. When asked whether they treat their pet animals in the same way, they are loathed to contemplate it. Yet they treat themselves as second-rate citizens. Can you see the folly in this way of thinking?
We Are All Fragile In Those Tender Places
If we are unkind to ourselves because of a volatile inner critic, it is likely to show up in our interaction with others. But going to war with ourselves does little to heal our emotional wounds and we become that person that finds faults in others. Do you know these types of people I'm referring to? It seems nothing is good enough for them and they believe the world is a dangerous and unpredictable place. They like to tune in to news events and remind you how harsh the world is. But this only a perception based on their subjective reality. Because for every bad news event there are people who are living passionate lives. There are people waking up grateful to be alive and surrounded by loved ones. There are people in third world countries happy to earn a basic living and serve their family and community.
The opposite of everything we believe is wrong with the world exists out there. We just haven't attuned our awareness to it. If you were to travel the world for twelve months in search of positive experiences, it would change your life. What we give our attention to becomes our perception and model of reality. The reason we experience conflict with others, is because they have a different model of reality to ours. Therefore, we try to convince them our model is superior to theirs and conflict ensues. What if we were to agree there are multiple realities coexisting, based on our level of awareness? That is to say: the more you grow and develop, the greater your perception becomes. It is why people with an enhanced self-esteem rarely find fault in others because they know we are all fragile in those tender places. Highlighting another person's weaknesses does little to strengthen our own character.
Are you beginning to get a sense that your perception creates the canvas of your life and interaction with others? Can you see that being in conflict with yourself means finding something to disagree with in another person? Can you also see that healing and transforming your wounds foremost is the basis for purposeful living? Knowing that everyone carries a heavy burden, reminds us to tend to our own needs first before we castigate them. With that in mind, I'd like you to give some thought to how you can be more compassionate in your interactions with those who offend you? You needn't agree with everyone and those who are disagreeable can teach us something about ourselves. It doesn't mean we need to go to war with them. We can still be civil and disagree on our outlook because we recognise our shared humanity. It is when we learn to heal and transform our pain that we view every interaction as a sacred space of healing and self-transformation.
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Friday, 27 March 2020
How To Love And Nurture Your Neglected Self
Opportunities To Love And Nurture Our Neglected Self
What is the relationship you have with yourself? Are you aware of your inner dialogue related with your self-worth? How do you treat yourself when you're angry, fearful or sad? How we relate to ourselves during our darkest moments shows what type of relationship we with ourselves. Everyone experiences positive emotions when things are going right, but what about when life isn't going according to plan? These are opportunities to love and nurture our neglected self because the disowned self is the one we must come home to. What do I mean by coming home to ourselves? It means creating a place to honour our emotions, especially the difficult ones which call for our attention.
Many people run away from their negative emotions, and I used to be one of them. Besides, who wants to experience negative states regularly? We want to feel alive and happy and negative emotions don't fit into that plan. Or do they? Negative emotions serve a purpose and we mustn't run away from them but deal with them with openness and compassion. Because they are important messengers and running away delays our emotional well-being. Think about the negative emotions you experience from time to time? How do you process them? Do you journal how you feel and notice what they're trying to tell you?
Consider the following scenario as an example of why we must love and nurture our neglected self. Your boss constantly criticises you on your work performance, and you feel a sense of: sadness, frustration and anger. Over time, you bottle these emotions because they remind you of the disparaging comments from your boss. But what if there's an underlying message contained within these emotions? Perhaps by connecting with them on a deeper level, you learn not to take the criticism personally but improve respective areas of your work thus leading to a promotion.
Make Room For Negative Emotions
Emotions are transitory events that come and go from our nervous system, hundreds of times a day. Most people are not mindful of them because there's so much going on inside their heads. That is why we should listen to what is taking place beneath the surface of our lives, otherwise we will succumb to the negative emotions like a tsunami. Connecting with our emotional life means checking in with ourselves to see how we're doing. It means stopping, feeling and listening to what the emotions are trying to convey. A practice I undertake when anger, frustration or fear emerges is to stop what I'm doing and place my hands on my heart to observe my emotions. I sit and feel them, no matter how difficult or uncomfortable they are. I know these emotions will pass, and my job is to connect with them through an embodied experience.
An embodied experience means to somatically perceive through our nervous system, the emotion/s without deferring them. Many people distract themselves via: drinking, drugs, food, shopping, etc. when negative emotions surface. But eventually the emotion will seep through and grab our attention, when we least expect it. Our emotions are our soul's calling card. They don't have an agenda other than to communicate the essence of our true selves. They help us to make sense of life, so we can live in congruency with our authentic self. For example, if you're not receiving adequate love and affection from your partner, your emotions will tell you something isn't right. Some people try to rationalise it by telling themselves their partner is busy at work or has a lot on their plate. But our emotions don't lie because they are the foundation of our intuition, if we care to listen. Perhaps we're afraid to tell our partner we need more intimacy in the relationship? We might fear putting our demands on them will make them think we're being demanding and so we hold back.
Have you experienced something like this before? It might start out as a gut feeling that grows and turns into confrontation because you haven't communicated yourself properly. Therefore, we must love and nurture our neglected self because it is the part of us we need to come home to. The neglected self is the comfortable sofa we lay our weary body after a long day at work. It is the comfy pyjamas we wear on a cold winter's day. But like all emotions, we must also make room for negative emotions and process them with openness. The key is to be with your emotions and feel them in your body. Simply, stop what you're doing, and breathe into that area until the emotion dissolves or transforms.
I did this exercise recently after experiencing anger and tension from a busy day that didn't go as planned. I was sitting down late one evening, looking forward to reading, and was repeatedly interrupted, which led to anger and stress. I remember a thought entering my mind that said: "I don't have time for this right now." In the next moment, I dropped what I was doing and breathed deeply for three or four minutes, whilst moving my awareness to my chest where the anger was situated. What took place moments later was the most exquisite love I have experienced. Its presence was reassuring and comforting and I didn't want to return to what I was doing. I've since experienced many more moments like this because what I learned is that on the other side of our negative emotions is a pure and abiding love that beckons us to come home to. It is this love we must nurture often, instead of neglecting coming home to our true self.
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Thursday, 26 March 2020
Helping Happiness Along
Happiness is worth helping along.
The benefits of being a happy person are huge. We live longer, live healthier, and live more lively lives.
Unfortunately, all but the most highly-evolved among us have our less-than-happy moments. Fortunately, we can do simple things to recapture a happy mood if we find ourselves lacking one.
I found an article that starts, "Everyone wants to be happy, but happiness is more than pasting a smile on your face."
True, but that is a great start.
Pasting a smile on your face, even if forced, gets the happiness engine started. If you are from the North, a forced smile is like a jump start on a frigid morning.
Even though you are still freezing, you got started.
Another strategy is to force yourself to take a few deep breaths.
Something about our internal hardwiring will not allow us be negative and well-oxygenated at the same time.
A few deep breaths clears the head, relieves tension, and relaxes the posture. After some deep breathing, we hold our bodies in a way more conducive to a happy state of mind.
Another trick is to laugh.
We can do this the sane way or the insane way.
The sane way is to find something to laugh about. In my experience, this is the option most people choose.
This could be as simple as going to a joke website or watching a stand-up show on Comedy Central.
The insane option is the funniest, most self-reliant, and the most private. We can start laughing for no apparent reason, except to recapture the state of happiness.
I've done this and it works. However, for obvious reasons, don't try this at home, unless you are alone.
However you do it, help happiness along.
It's closer that you think.
Copyright 2004 by Tony Papajohn. Tony writes and speaks on success. Subscribe to his free SuccessMotivator e-zine at http://www.successmotivator.com.
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Handling Life's Obstacles?: Challenges, Or Problems?
At some point, or another, each of us face some obstacle, or obstacles, and often, the difference between enjoy the happiest, most contented, life, or a far more stressful one, is how we perceive and conceive of these, and proceed, forward! When something, unforeseen, and/ or, unwanted, occurs, each of us, must decide, whether to follow the path of problematic thinking, versus, deciding to view them, merely as a challenge, to overcome! You can think you can, or think you can't. Either way, you'll be correct. Henry Ford, credited with these words, believed he could create the world largest automobile company (when others, didn't believe in him), and perceived every obstacle, as an invigorating challenge! With that in mind, this article will attempt to, briefly, consider, examine, review, and discuss, how our attitude, in terms of overcoming life's issues, often determines the end - result.
1. Perceiving problems: The sky is falling. Is this, your way of handling life's lemons? When we see something, as being, problematic, it creates a negative attitude, which, does little, to nothing, towards achieving the best resolutions, and/ or, solutions! Those proceeding, this way, often resort to procrastinating, because they permit their fears and apprehensions, to dominate their mindset, attitude, and actions. They proceed, often, with despair, and the belief, It's out of my control, instead of, looking for viable, relevant solutions, and a better, personal, action plan!
2. Seeing obstacles as challenges instead of problems: When you proceed, with a greater degree of open - minded thinking, and self - confidence, you enhance your potential, and possibilities! Instead of limiting your options, alternatives, and opportunities, when you see things, with the perception, I can handle and overcome that, it creates far less stress, and more willingness to proceed forward, with a plan, instead of simply, procrastinating, and trying to avoid, what you perceive as undesirable/ scary, etc. Many things in our lives, can be explained, by looking at how the greatest, sports champions, handle the stresses and strains, of performing, under - pressure! When the game was on the line, the great, Michael Jordan, always, wanted the ball, because, he visualized making the key shot, and the basketball, flying through the net. The greatest professional golfer, of our time, Tiger Woods, always focused on the green, beyond the hazard, instead of the negative possibilities, of having the ball, fall in the hazard!
When you view obstacles as challenges, to overcome, as opposed to, emphasizing potential problems, you do harm, to your ultimate health, and well - being! Will you be your best friend, or worst enemy?
Richard has owned businesses, been a COO, CEO, Director of Development, consultant, professionally run events, consulted to thousands, and conducted personal development seminars, for 4 decades. Rich has written three books and thousands of articles. Website: http://plan2lead.net and LIKE the Facebook page for self - help: http://facebook.com/Plan2lead
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Wednesday, 25 March 2020
Grief Healing Insights For Living With Purpose And Joy
When unwanted grief knocks at your door and enters your life, you must discover your own personal voice and authority.
"For those men who, sooner or later, are lucky enough to break away from the pack, the most intoxicating moment comes when they cease being bodies in other men's command and find that they control their own time, when they learn their own voice and authority."
~ Theodore H. White
~ Theodore H. White
Four essential grief healing insights for living with purpose and finding your own authority to heal are vital to a wholesome life of happiness and joy.
1-Believe And Take Action
Henry Ford highlights a personal truth about challenges of life each face. You are governed to a great degree by what you believe about personal challenges. It is important you believe you can. Don't let the naysayers cause you to believe otherwise. Take time to list four things you believe you can do to reconcile your grieving and find more happiness and peace. Begin doing them today.
"Those who believe they can do something and those who believe they can't are both right."
~ Henry Ford
~ Henry Ford
Never accept: I can't as a viable answer to your unique condition.
2-Find Your Own Courage
Courage doesn't necessarily mean you don't have fears. It simply means you have the gumption to face your trials. It is important you believe in your inner self and find your own empowerment.
"Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Too many have their opinions and form their own judgement about what a person is made of and what they can and cannot do. Given your situation - which they may not fully understand - they have formed and often voiced what you can and cannot do under fire. They don't know what you can do once you set your mind and heart on a healing course of action. Believe you can!
3-Trust Your Inner Strength To Carry-out Your Dreams
"Trust your own inner guidance. Have faith that your steps are carrying you toward your dreams. Keep your eyes on the heavens and believe that your feet will carry you well."
~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie
~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Your inner strength has not always been challenged until now. Trusting in your own empowerment requires you to dig deep - perhaps deeper than ever before.
"It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed."
~ Ram Dass
~ Ram Dass
How you will proceed along your grief healing journey is up to you. Nonetheless, the steps you take can begin your healing. Take thirty minutes to evaluate the healing steps that are essential to use the inner strength you have effectively.
4-LIVE With Purpose
Grief and loss experiences take you full circle as you appraise your condition. Finding positive and beneficial opportunities and possibilities are essential to your healing.
"Don't dwell on what went wrong.
Instead, focus on what to do next.
Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer."
~ Denis Waitley
Instead, focus on what to do next.
Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer."
~ Denis Waitley
Live your best life; it's not your age, not your predicament, it is the energy you muster towards finding the answer needed to find your healing solutions that is most important.
Believe in yourself. Find your own courage. Trust in your inner strength. Live each day of your life with purpose. Begin today.
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Tuesday, 24 March 2020
Saturday, 21 March 2020
Top 15 Goals Quotations
Examine your own personal goals and find methods to achieve your desires with these valuable quotations about setting goals...
- "The most important thing about having goals is having one." -- Geoffrey F. Abert
- "It takes a little courage, and a little self-control. And some grim determination, If you want to reach the goal. It takes a deal of striving, and a firm and stern-set chin. No matter what the battle, If you really want to win. There's no easy path to glory, There's no road to fame. Life, however we may view it, Is no simple parlor game; But it's prizes call for fighting, For endurance and for grit; For a rugged disposition and don't know when to quit." -- Anonymous
- "No set goal achieved satisfies. Success only breeds a new goal. The golden apple devoured has seeds. It is endless." -- Bette Davis
- "A goal is a dream that has an ending. " -- Duke Ellington
- "The timid and fearful first failures dismay, but the stout heart stays trying by night and by day. He values his failures as lessons that teach The one way to get to the goal he would reach." -- Edgar A. Guest
- "Know what you want to do, hold the thought firmly, and do every day what should be done, and every sunset will see you that much nearer to your goal." -- Elbert Hubbard
- "Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude." -- Thomas Jefferson
- "It is for us to pray not for tasks equal to our powers, but for powers equal to our tasks, to go forward with a great desire forever beating at the door of our hearts as we travel toward our distant goal." -- Helen Keller
- "A goal properly set is halfway reached." -- Abraham Lincoln
- "It must be borne in mind that the tragedy of life does not lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy of life lies in having no goal to reach." -- Benjamin E. Mays
- "Each of us has a fire in our hearts for something. It's our goal in life to find it and to keep it lit." -- Mary Lou Retton
- "Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal." -- Ralph Vaull Starr
- "We must walk consciously only part way toward our goal, and then leap in the dark to our success." -- Henry David Thoreau
- "Goals are your personal statements of what you are truly willing to do to achieve what you really want to achieve." -- Denis Waitley
- "What you get by achieving your goals is to as important as what you become by achieving your goals." -- Zig Ziglar
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Friday, 20 March 2020
How to Stick to Your Goals When the Obstacles Seem Impossible
Overcoming the Impossible
Almost everyone knows the value of setting goals. Setting them, writing them down, and then marching toward their completion is the best and surest way to make progress. It doesn't matter what your goals are, as long as they're important to you, and let's face it, if they weren't important to you, you wouldn't have made them goals in the first place, right?
Problems arise, however, when you feel as though you're not making any progress. Sometimes it feels as though every force in the universe is acting against you, trying to keep you from achieving whatever goal you have set for yourself. It can be discouraging. It can make you want to just throw you hands up in despair and give up.
Before you do that though, take a step back. Take a deep breath and assess what's really going on here. In almost every case, there's something you could do just a bit differently that will turn the tide back in your favor and make you feel as though you're making genuine progress again. Here are five simple tricks for doing just that, and overcoming seeming impossible odds:
1- Don't Do Too Much
Most people think they're good multitaskers, but science has shown that less than two percent of the population can actually pull it off effectively.
Even if you're convinced you're one of those 2%, don't do it. You will overwhelm yourself and add to the frustration if you set too many goals and try to pursue them all at once.
Instead, pick a single goal. Your most pressing and important one, and focus exclusively on that. Knock it down, and then proceed to your next goal.
The focus will help ensure that you see more progress, more quickly toward your main goal, and that will build momentum and the confidence you need to keep fighting the good fight until all your goals have been achieved (at which point, it's time to set some new goals!)
2- Take Time Management To The Next Level
Have you ever performed a time study on yourself? You should! It's shocking how much slack time there is in most people's day. You might find that you spend two or three hours a day checking email, or browsing Facebook, or watching YouTube videos.
It's different for every person of course, but everyone has time sinks in their day. Identify yours and cut them out. This gives you more time to focus on your goals.
3- The Importance of Down Time
You'll get burnt out if you spend all your time chasing your goals without a break, so be sure to give yourself one. Every day, take a minimum of thirty minutes a day, just for yourself. Meditate, listen to music, go for a walk... do anything except think about your goals.
Of course, while you're doing this, your subconscious mind is still hard at work thinking about them, and this is what often leads people to sudden flashes of insight or inspiration.
That's why the downtime is so important. Not only does it help you preserve your sanity, but it gives your mind the space and time it needs to look at whatever problems you're encountering from a different angle.
4- Don't Obsess Over Perfection
A lot of people get the idea stuck in their head that their first try at a given thing has to be sheer perfection. They obsess over it.
They spend way more time than they need to, trying to make sure that this one little piece of the puzzle is absolutely perfect before moving onto the next task in pursuit of their goal.
Don't do that. It doesn't have to be perfect at first, it just has to exist.
Once it exists, you can spend some additional time each day tweaking it and making it better, but don't feel as though you must make everything absolutely perfect before you can move on. You don't, and if you get locked into that kind of thinking, you'll never actually get anywhere.
Get the basics up and running and move on. As you make progress toward your goal, you can circle back to improve what you've already got, but don't spend too much time obsessing over the small stuff.
5- Go Granular
One of the leading causes of frustration when you're chasing a particular goal is the feeling of a lack of progress toward your goal. It's just too big, and there are always things cropping up that seem to get between you and what you really want.
Focusing on a single goal, as mentioned above, will help you steer around a number of roadblocks that seem to throw themselves in your way, but that won't matter if you never feel like you're actually making forward progress. Fortunately, there's an easy fix for that.
Yes, your main goal is important, but equally important are all the sub-tasks involved in ultimately achieving that goal. Break it down into small, manageable chunks.
Specific tasks you can start and complete on the same day that aren't your goal, in and of themselves, but move you steadily closer to it.
Doing that will give you a feeling of momentum. Each day, you'll be able to chart the course of your progress, and you'll see yourself moving closer and closer to the goal you're ultimately hoping to achieve.
Call it what you like: List making, going granular, or eating the elephant one bite at a time, it all comes down to the same thing. If you try to tackle a huge goal all at once, you're almost doomed to fail. It's just too big to handle. It's just too big to get your arms around all at once.
On the other hand, if you break it down into tiny steps and individual components, you'll find yourself racing ahead, making steady progress, and before you know it, your goal has been achieved! That's how you manage all of the obstacles and road blocks that might arise to try and keep you from your goal.
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Thursday, 19 March 2020
Goal Setting - A Stick With It Attitude For Kids
Congratulations! A New Year has commenced and with it comes the hope and dreams of millions of creative mothers and fathers, children and extended families!
What will you accomplish this year? What are your children looking forward to achieving? How are you going to motivate them to stay on track? How are they going to savor their success?
Here are a few basic rules to follow.
1. Is the goal yours or theirs? Make sure that whatever your children's goals are that it comes from them and not you or their grandparents, teachers, or caregivers. They have to have a yearning that is garnered from deep within them.
2. Solicit a rock solid commitment. Ask them how committed they are to following through with their goals? What do they intend to do when they come up against obstacles? Cultivate a stick with it attitude before they embark on each goal.
3. Write goals down. Purchase a small note-book at the dollar store and have them record each goal.
• Dr. Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at Dominican University in California, did a study on goal-setting with 267 participants. She found that you are 42 percent more likely to achieve your goals just by writing them down.¹
4. Use a SMART format when writing goals down.
• Specific
• Measurable
• Achievable
• Relevant (reasonable, realistic)
• Time bound (time-based, time limited)
• For example: an 8 year-old boy has a burning desire to play hockey but he does not know how to skate. His parents don't skate either. They have reservations as to how successful he may be. Instead of discouraging him they sit down with their son [or daughter] and map out what he needs to do to bring about a successful execution of this goal.
• He needs skates and an opportunity to practice. His parents rent second-hand skates (with the option of buying them) and one of his parent's friends offers to show him how to skate at a public skating rink. He has a ball! Three times a week he practices skating on the rink.
• His parents take him to the library to research how hockey is played. He devours the information. Eventually, he gets to try out for a hockey team. You get the picture.
5. Mark Progression on a Calendar: Map out the time frame on a calendar and what daily steps are necessary to do. Don't be afraid to ask for advice from people who have already done what your child is working on.. Why re-invent the wheel?
6. Create a vision board & an accomplishment board. As your child meets a target he transfers a visual representation from his vision board on to his accomplishment board. What an easy way to build confidence! Teach him to savor each success. How is he going to celebrate? Is he going to keep a journal of his progress?
7. Everyday ask this simple question. "What is one thing that your child can do today that he cannot fail at, to move him closer to reaching his goal? Teach him to take it one step at a time while visualizing the outcome clearly in his mind. This is a key motivating factor. He has to see the end result and feel he has attained it. Visualizing the end result helps him stay motivated on days he encounters stumbling blocks.
8. Perseverance-If he does not make the team the first time have him ask the coach what he needs to do to improve. Never take NO as a confirmation that a goal is unattainable. Never give up. Keep on keeping until he feels satisfied with the outcome.
"Most "impossible" goals can be met simply by breaking them down into bite size chunks, writing them down, believing them, and then going full speed ahead as if they are routine."-Don Lancaster
Kathleen Boucher, CEO of Great Kids and Me, http://www.greatkidsandme.com. Did your parents teach you how to set goals as a child? Do you sit down as a family and decide what you & your kids want to accomplish at the beginning of each New Year? Make this year amazing. Begin a ritual that your children will pass on to their kids.
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Wednesday, 18 March 2020
10 Benefits of Knowing Your Purpose
"To love what you do and feel that it matters-how could anything be more fun?" ~ Katharine Graham
What is so important about having a purpose in life? Increasingly, people are looking for something more than just "making a living." They're realizing that there seems to be something missing in their lives and they're experiencing an inner sense of dissatisfaction. Many outwardly successful people describe feeling "off-track" in some way or a sense of being incomplete. That missing something is a sense of purpose.
Without purpose, we may drift through directionless and unfulfilled. According to business psychologist and psychotherapist Douglas La Bier, "The consequences of not finding your purpose include chronic, lingering dissatisfaction; an absence of inner peace and a sense of not being fully in sync with your inner self."
Here are some of the benefits of connecting with and pursuing your purpose:
1. It gives you control over your own direction in life. You stop following the "shoulds" of family and society and set your own course for what you want to do with your life.
2. You're more likely to have a healthier outlook on life and be more resistant to stress.
3. You have more focus in life, making choices based on what's meaningful to you.
4. You have a greater sense of inner peace and satisfaction as you align with what you were "made for."
5. You live more in the flow of life, rather than in struggle. This isn't to say there aren't challenges but when you have a sense of meaning and purpose the challenges don't seem as large and you get through them more quickly and easily. You're better able to handle the ups and downs of life. *
6. You enjoy more satisfying relationships. A 2009 study of over 1,000 adults found that those with a high sense of meaning in their lives spent more time and attention on their loved ones and communities. They were more engaged with their families, neighbors and colleagues.
7. It redefines what success means to you. It's not about climbing the corporate ladder, a particular title or how much money you make. This isn't to say you can't make good money. When you're doing what you love you are actually more aligned to everything you want, including financial abundance. It simply means that the usual markers of success in our society are not as important as the inner satisfaction of how you're spending your time. Success is defined by what brings you joy.
8. You'll love knowing what you're doing is making a contribution to the larger whole. When you're "on purpose" you'll be doing what you love and utilizing your talents in a way that adds more positive energy to the world. Serving more than your own self-interest connects you to your higher self. It opens your heart and summons your spirit.
9. Your overall happiness increases and you have more of a zest for life!
10. Having a sense of purpose can help you live longer! **
If you've connected with your purpose, congratulations! You're already reaping the rewards of "doing what you love and feeling that it matters." Whatever it is that you've found, if it is your passion and has meaning for you, it does matter.
If you're still wondering what your purpose is, I encourage you to explore the possibilities. What do you love to do? What talents and skills do you enjoy using? You may want to enlist the help of a coach to go deeper. The world is waiting for your unique gifts!
* From Ed Diener's research on the science of wellbeing.
** From researcher Patrick Hill of Carleton University, Canada. Published in "Psychological Science," a journal of the Association for Psychological Science
Estra Roell is a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, certified Life Purpose Coach, Advanced PSYCH-K® facilitator and Happiness Generator Facilitator. Estra helps clients get in touch with their passions and purpose and assists them to uncover and remove any blockages or old patterns that may be holding them back from living a life of joy, purpose and abundance. Estra is also a co-author of the books "101 Great Ways to Enhance Your Career" and "How to Create a Rich, Successful and Fulfilling Life." She's the author of the e-book, "4 Keys to Living Your Life Purpose."
Visit her website at http://www.americaslifepurposecoach.com/ to receive her free report on "Visioning Your Purpose and Heading Toward it Today." Sign up for a free "Life Purpose Strategy Session" at http://www.americaslifepurposecoach.com/strategy-session.
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Tuesday, 17 March 2020
How to Maximize Goals, Affirmations and Visualizations
Do you want to get better results from daily exercises such as affirmations and visualizations, develop a better relationships with your inner self and get in touch with your personal power every moment of the day? The key to all of these things is energy. If you can learn to control the flow of energy within you, you can achieve these results and much more.
So, what exactly is energy? Energy is everything. Everything is comprised on energy. It has been proven scientifically that everything has its own energy field. This includes you and me, the cat, the trees outside, computers, cell phones and everything else. It has also been proven that any thought you have also creates it's own energy field. On a spiritual level, one might discuss the unlimited source of positive energy that comes from Source (God, the Universe, whatever word you are comfortable with). All of this energy is simultaneously individual and interconnected. What's important for you to know is that there is unlimited positive energy flowing around you at all times, and that you can use this positive energy. This positive energy enables all good things in your life, and when used consciously is the key to manifesting that which you desire into your life.
You may already be aware of your energy. If you are not, just know that it's there whether you are aware of it or not. You probably already know about it, you just may not realize it. The most simplistic way to get in touch with your energy is to become aware of your feelings. Your feelings are a result of and an indicator of the energy you are flowing. As you know, there is a whole array of feelings: happy, sad, fun, excited, grumpy, blissful, and on and on. You don't need to worry about all of that. What you want to become attune to is whether you feel good or you feel bad. This may sound ridiculously simple, but in fact many of us go on auto-pilot and do not pay attention to how we're feeling at all. As you go through your day, start to pay attention to yourself. Notice whether you feel good or feel bad. What if you don't feel good but don't feel exactly bad either? Unless you feel good, really good, you are not fully flowing positive energy.
Your body is an excellent indicator of feel-good/feel-bad. Often when we are not flowing positively, we tense our muscles, clench our jaw, hold our breath or develop a knot in our stomach. If you have any of these physical indicators or another sign of physical stress, there's a good chance you are not fully flowing feel-good energy. You want to practice sensing your energy until you know moment by moment if you are flowing positive energy or not. This may take quite a bit of practice, but you will begin to develop a better relationship with yourself, which is well worth the effort. In this fast-paced world, learning to be still within is a talent that will make you happier and increase your productivity.
The second step in the process of utilizing positive energy is learning to shift your energy to positive when it is not positive. You realize that you are not feeling good, perhaps because your stomach is knotted like a stone and you are cursing the person in the car ahead of you for not going faster than the speed limit. This realization is the first step, because you have stepped back from the situation enough to realize you need a shift. Next begin to breathe deeply, and if you are a visual person, imagine a clean, white slate, because each moment is a new moment in which you can shift your energy. Wipe the slate clean, and start the next moment in a feel good place. If this simple exercise is not enough to shift your mood, think of the things in this day that you have to be grateful for, while you continue breathing deeply. Be grateful that you are becoming aware of your energy and that you are assuredly making progress in using your energy to improve your life. Think of people, places, activities and things that you love. Think of something funny, laugh, smile or sing. Physiologically, it is hard to stay negative mentally when your body is doing something positive like smiling.
For those of you that practice affirmations and visualizations, the same energy techniques apply. Sometimes you might get into resistance saying your affirmations and visualizing things you do not yet have, and these exercises are all about energy. For instance, you are saying your affirmations, and come to one you have a lot of resistance about, "My life operates smoothly, easily and joyously." You say the affirmation, but your body is tensed and your mind is saying, "But my life doesn't operate smoothly, easily and joyously!" This is then the energy that you are placing into this affirmation, which is obviously not a good thing. Sometimes we really have to be with something a while before we can be comfortable with it. Many of us are raised with thoughts and ideas that do not mesh well with the life we want to live as adults. You may have old beliefs that you are not worthy of money, or that there is no such thing as true romance, or that life is hard and you have to work hard to achieve anything. So when we introduce affirmations and visualizations into our lives that clash with these old beliefs, it's sort of like the stereotype we've all seen in the movies of the sweet, innocent daughter bringing home the tatooed, long-haired boyfriend to meet the parents. Sometimes it takes time to reach that comfort zone. So if you find yourself reacting negatively to your affirmations and visualizations, don't be put off. Ask yourself why you are in resistance, to which your answer may be immediate or something that is slowly uncovered. Then spend time "being" with the idea, whether the idea is unlimited money, passion for your career, a healthy relationship or a beautiful body. Think about it, visualize it, read about it, clip out pictures you like, get to know what it's really like to have or experience what it is that you want. In this acclimation process, remember to stay aware of your feelings, breathe deeply, and refocus your energy if you become resistant. Once you are quite comfortable with every aspect of what it is that you desire, you will have shifted many if not all of the old beliefs that may be blocking its manifestation and you will be comfortable and intimate with and therefore energetically aligned with your desire. Your energy will quickly draw your desire physically into your life.
Approach your energy goals with the enthusiasm and lightness of a child. Make a fun game of it all, and this energy will spread throughout your life. Sanaya Roman said, "The path of joy is joy." You have the power each moment of the day, every day, to choose how you feel. What's your choice?
Copyright 2004, Alexia Alderson Chamberlynn
Alexia Alderson Chamberlynn is the Co-Owner of Prosperity Power Training, LLC, a national training company specializing in e-learning, life coaching and live group training. To contact Alexia or sign up for free services such as a Free 7-Day Training Program, free monthly newsletter and free quote-of-the-day club, visit the website at [http://www.prosperitypowertraining.com]. Alexia expects to release her first novel in 2005. Alexia lives in Florida with her son Gareth.
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Monday, 16 March 2020
Sunday, 15 March 2020
Message From the Universe: Baby Steps to the Journey of a Thousand Miles
"Starting something is the best way to finish something.
And just doing a teeny, tiny something today, anything, from wherever you are, is the best way to start something.
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The Universe"
The journey of a thousand miles start always with the first step. You can't accomplish anything if you haven't started moving towards your goal. Effort is required and something can be difficult for many who are afraid of making effort. Many do the bare minimum but yet complain that they don't see great results. You reap what you sow and that applies with everything in life. Nothing will come easy as if it did, every body would do it. You need to be different and think outside the box at times, even get out of your comfort zone. Great things will happen when you put in the time and energy to work towards making difficult changes in your life. Believe me, I speak with lots of experience.
So where to start this journey you may ask? Well, make sure you write down what you want to accomplish, or create, or achieve. Once you have all of it in paper, determine what is needed to get things done. Always focus on the big picture and do not allow yourself to get intimidated by your dreams, even if they are very scary, in the good way. Face your fears and always come up with better solutions to what you want to do. Baby steps are required to appease the hurdles you will face all through your journey to happiness. Once you mastered crawling, you can start walking and to finally run towards your destination. Be careful though as you may also fall and hurt yourself at times, but this is a part of what we call life. Without failures, you will never learn anything. If you don't learn, you mind will stagnate and nothing will have any meaning. You want to avoid that at all cost. If the path you are in isn't the right one, turn back and find the one that works best for you. Until then, I will see you at the destination. I am sure I will reach my goals. Why don't you?
Dr Dan Amzallag, PhD, MBA, CLC
Author/Inspirational Speaker/Life Coach
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Saturday, 14 March 2020
10 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem
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