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Tuesday, 26 May 2020
Start by Prioritising Your Happiness
Some people treat happiness as their main goal. When you ask them what they want in life they say, 'to be happy'. But happiness can be elusive. It creeps up on us when we least expect it, when we find ourselves smiling at a beautiful sunset, a table laid for a family meal, succeeding in a challenge, watching our friends laugh at a terrible joke.
Happiness is rarely about expensive gifts or acquisitions. So when planning for a positive, fulfilling life it's important to start by prioritising your happiness. Let's look at what this entails.
- Practise daily gratitude. This doesn't mean settling for second best or sitting back on your laurels, but is about being grateful for what you have and finding a balanced, grounded approach to life. Appreciation of others, valuing the lessons learned from challenges and setbacks, the relationships in your life, the food, air, roof over your head, running water, all can all be taken for granted but are things many others don't have.Those people would be happy to be in your shoes.
- Happiness comes from being inspired, so ensure you have things that motivate you to improve, to be better, reach a higher level. This may be learning new skills, expanding your area of expertise, focusing on a new direction, something that elevates your vision, stretches you and brings a sense of achievement.
- Leaving our familiar comfort zone can be scary and exhilarating, yet often results in us feeling happy and proud of ourselves afterwards. Even trying new food, another route to work, having a go at something we're apprehensive about can prompt a positive shift in our thinking and a happier sense of self.
- Being challenged is important to happiness too. Being receptive to new ideas and initiatives, being prepared to say, 'yes' even when unsure of yourself. Why not say 'yes' first and work out how to do it afterwards! Self-improvement and development bring their own happiness and fulfillment.
- Do things you do well. Being challenged is often a good experience but if life is already stressful making time to do something you know you're good at can be an important reminder of how competent and capable you are. And we all need a little window of success in a stressful life. Enjoy it, even if it's icing a cake, putting up shelving or supporting an elderly neighbour.
- Rewards can bring happiness. Yes, we deserve to be rewarded for our efforts financially. We need to live and pay our bills. But also reward yourself by ensuring you have a space, a place where you go and feel secure, able to relax. It may be your bedroom, with lovely prints, cushions, flowers and music. When you're there you close the door on the world, destress and chill.
- Being involved with others can bring happiness; teaching, mentoring, coaching, volunteering are often fulfilling experiences. And the people we're involved with may bring new ideas, inspiration, suggestions of their own that add value to our lives.
- Don't follow the crowd. Others have their own stories, motivations and limitations. They may begrudge you your energy and drive, preferring that you don't remind them of their apparent lack of ambition, but we're all different and each of us have needs and wants that evolve over time. Reflect on those relationships and consider if it's time to reduce their influence in your life.
- Mix with people who like, support and encourage you; they're your fans and ambassadors. People who like you treat you with respect, may challenge you on occasion, but they're in your court and you're in theirs. Nurturing 'your' people allows you to be vulnerable, wrong sometimes and able to discuss any problem areas in an accepting, non-judgmental arena.
- Indulge your senses. Happiness comes from incorporating smell, taste, touch as well as music and beautiful art and colours. Make time to enjoy nature, your pets. Visit the beach, the forest and stimulate your senses; feel the sand underneath your feet.
- Give yourself regular free time. Happiness is about ensuring there's balance in your life. Prioritising time for fun, sport, exercise, reading is important. Sometimes work may require extra attention, but aim to regularly give yourself time out, perhaps just to sit with a coffee at the mall.
- Insist on being treated with respect by those you come into contact with. Good boundaries matter. Unhappiness can occur if we feel disrespected, treated dismissively or are taken for granted. Intercept bad treatment at the outset and be firm about good manners and consideration. But equally remember to invest time and attention in your good relationships.
- Deal with your demons. Happiness is about being at peace with ourselves, forgiving any failures, past mistakes or errors of judgement. If you're struggling therapy coulhttps://ezinearticles.com/?Start-by-Prioritising-Your-Happiness&id=10262600d be a good way to heal and recover from negative patterns and ways of thinking. Be gentle with yourself and move on from unhelpful self-talk. It can make all the difference to your happiness levels.
Look after yourself. Eat well, exercise, commit to regular sleep. Practice these tips, prioritise your health and happiness will follow.
Susan Leigh, counselor, hypnotherapist, relationship counselor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support.
She's author of 3 books, 'Dealing with Stress, Managing its Impact', '101 Days of Inspiration #tipoftheday' and 'Dealing with Death, Coping with the Pain', all on Amazon & with easy to read sections, tips and ideas to help you feel more positive about your life.
To order a copy or for more information, help and free articles visit http://www.lifestyletherapy.net
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Wednesday, 13 May 2020
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Monday, 30 March 2020
Friday, 27 March 2020
How To Love And Nurture Your Neglected Self
Opportunities To Love And Nurture Our Neglected Self
What is the relationship you have with yourself? Are you aware of your inner dialogue related with your self-worth? How do you treat yourself when you're angry, fearful or sad? How we relate to ourselves during our darkest moments shows what type of relationship we with ourselves. Everyone experiences positive emotions when things are going right, but what about when life isn't going according to plan? These are opportunities to love and nurture our neglected self because the disowned self is the one we must come home to. What do I mean by coming home to ourselves? It means creating a place to honour our emotions, especially the difficult ones which call for our attention.
Many people run away from their negative emotions, and I used to be one of them. Besides, who wants to experience negative states regularly? We want to feel alive and happy and negative emotions don't fit into that plan. Or do they? Negative emotions serve a purpose and we mustn't run away from them but deal with them with openness and compassion. Because they are important messengers and running away delays our emotional well-being. Think about the negative emotions you experience from time to time? How do you process them? Do you journal how you feel and notice what they're trying to tell you?
Consider the following scenario as an example of why we must love and nurture our neglected self. Your boss constantly criticises you on your work performance, and you feel a sense of: sadness, frustration and anger. Over time, you bottle these emotions because they remind you of the disparaging comments from your boss. But what if there's an underlying message contained within these emotions? Perhaps by connecting with them on a deeper level, you learn not to take the criticism personally but improve respective areas of your work thus leading to a promotion.
Make Room For Negative Emotions
Emotions are transitory events that come and go from our nervous system, hundreds of times a day. Most people are not mindful of them because there's so much going on inside their heads. That is why we should listen to what is taking place beneath the surface of our lives, otherwise we will succumb to the negative emotions like a tsunami. Connecting with our emotional life means checking in with ourselves to see how we're doing. It means stopping, feeling and listening to what the emotions are trying to convey. A practice I undertake when anger, frustration or fear emerges is to stop what I'm doing and place my hands on my heart to observe my emotions. I sit and feel them, no matter how difficult or uncomfortable they are. I know these emotions will pass, and my job is to connect with them through an embodied experience.
An embodied experience means to somatically perceive through our nervous system, the emotion/s without deferring them. Many people distract themselves via: drinking, drugs, food, shopping, etc. when negative emotions surface. But eventually the emotion will seep through and grab our attention, when we least expect it. Our emotions are our soul's calling card. They don't have an agenda other than to communicate the essence of our true selves. They help us to make sense of life, so we can live in congruency with our authentic self. For example, if you're not receiving adequate love and affection from your partner, your emotions will tell you something isn't right. Some people try to rationalise it by telling themselves their partner is busy at work or has a lot on their plate. But our emotions don't lie because they are the foundation of our intuition, if we care to listen. Perhaps we're afraid to tell our partner we need more intimacy in the relationship? We might fear putting our demands on them will make them think we're being demanding and so we hold back.
Have you experienced something like this before? It might start out as a gut feeling that grows and turns into confrontation because you haven't communicated yourself properly. Therefore, we must love and nurture our neglected self because it is the part of us we need to come home to. The neglected self is the comfortable sofa we lay our weary body after a long day at work. It is the comfy pyjamas we wear on a cold winter's day. But like all emotions, we must also make room for negative emotions and process them with openness. The key is to be with your emotions and feel them in your body. Simply, stop what you're doing, and breathe into that area until the emotion dissolves or transforms.
I did this exercise recently after experiencing anger and tension from a busy day that didn't go as planned. I was sitting down late one evening, looking forward to reading, and was repeatedly interrupted, which led to anger and stress. I remember a thought entering my mind that said: "I don't have time for this right now." In the next moment, I dropped what I was doing and breathed deeply for three or four minutes, whilst moving my awareness to my chest where the anger was situated. What took place moments later was the most exquisite love I have experienced. Its presence was reassuring and comforting and I didn't want to return to what I was doing. I've since experienced many more moments like this because what I learned is that on the other side of our negative emotions is a pure and abiding love that beckons us to come home to. It is this love we must nurture often, instead of neglecting coming home to our true self.
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Wednesday, 25 March 2020
Grief Healing Insights For Living With Purpose And Joy
When unwanted grief knocks at your door and enters your life, you must discover your own personal voice and authority.
"For those men who, sooner or later, are lucky enough to break away from the pack, the most intoxicating moment comes when they cease being bodies in other men's command and find that they control their own time, when they learn their own voice and authority."
~ Theodore H. White
~ Theodore H. White
Four essential grief healing insights for living with purpose and finding your own authority to heal are vital to a wholesome life of happiness and joy.
1-Believe And Take Action
Henry Ford highlights a personal truth about challenges of life each face. You are governed to a great degree by what you believe about personal challenges. It is important you believe you can. Don't let the naysayers cause you to believe otherwise. Take time to list four things you believe you can do to reconcile your grieving and find more happiness and peace. Begin doing them today.
"Those who believe they can do something and those who believe they can't are both right."
~ Henry Ford
~ Henry Ford
Never accept: I can't as a viable answer to your unique condition.
2-Find Your Own Courage
Courage doesn't necessarily mean you don't have fears. It simply means you have the gumption to face your trials. It is important you believe in your inner self and find your own empowerment.
"Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Too many have their opinions and form their own judgement about what a person is made of and what they can and cannot do. Given your situation - which they may not fully understand - they have formed and often voiced what you can and cannot do under fire. They don't know what you can do once you set your mind and heart on a healing course of action. Believe you can!
3-Trust Your Inner Strength To Carry-out Your Dreams
"Trust your own inner guidance. Have faith that your steps are carrying you toward your dreams. Keep your eyes on the heavens and believe that your feet will carry you well."
~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie
~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Your inner strength has not always been challenged until now. Trusting in your own empowerment requires you to dig deep - perhaps deeper than ever before.
"It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed."
~ Ram Dass
~ Ram Dass
How you will proceed along your grief healing journey is up to you. Nonetheless, the steps you take can begin your healing. Take thirty minutes to evaluate the healing steps that are essential to use the inner strength you have effectively.
4-LIVE With Purpose
Grief and loss experiences take you full circle as you appraise your condition. Finding positive and beneficial opportunities and possibilities are essential to your healing.
"Don't dwell on what went wrong.
Instead, focus on what to do next.
Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer."
~ Denis Waitley
Instead, focus on what to do next.
Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer."
~ Denis Waitley
Live your best life; it's not your age, not your predicament, it is the energy you muster towards finding the answer needed to find your healing solutions that is most important.
Believe in yourself. Find your own courage. Trust in your inner strength. Live each day of your life with purpose. Begin today.
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Sunday, 15 March 2020
Message From the Universe: Baby Steps to the Journey of a Thousand Miles
"Starting something is the best way to finish something.
And just doing a teeny, tiny something today, anything, from wherever you are, is the best way to start something.
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The Universe"
The journey of a thousand miles start always with the first step. You can't accomplish anything if you haven't started moving towards your goal. Effort is required and something can be difficult for many who are afraid of making effort. Many do the bare minimum but yet complain that they don't see great results. You reap what you sow and that applies with everything in life. Nothing will come easy as if it did, every body would do it. You need to be different and think outside the box at times, even get out of your comfort zone. Great things will happen when you put in the time and energy to work towards making difficult changes in your life. Believe me, I speak with lots of experience.
So where to start this journey you may ask? Well, make sure you write down what you want to accomplish, or create, or achieve. Once you have all of it in paper, determine what is needed to get things done. Always focus on the big picture and do not allow yourself to get intimidated by your dreams, even if they are very scary, in the good way. Face your fears and always come up with better solutions to what you want to do. Baby steps are required to appease the hurdles you will face all through your journey to happiness. Once you mastered crawling, you can start walking and to finally run towards your destination. Be careful though as you may also fall and hurt yourself at times, but this is a part of what we call life. Without failures, you will never learn anything. If you don't learn, you mind will stagnate and nothing will have any meaning. You want to avoid that at all cost. If the path you are in isn't the right one, turn back and find the one that works best for you. Until then, I will see you at the destination. I am sure I will reach my goals. Why don't you?
Dr Dan Amzallag, PhD, MBA, CLC
Author/Inspirational Speaker/Life Coach
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